Preparing a guest list is one of the major hurdles during wedding planning. You need to decide who makes it to the invited list and who does not. One of the simple solutions is to go for an adult-only wedding and stick to the decision till the end.
But one may argue that children are part of our lives and it’s only fair to include them. That is a hotly contested debate but it all narrows down to what the bride and the groom decide. The critical question is that: How do you tell your friends and family that you’ll be having a kid free wedding?
The most effective way of avoiding children’s attendance at your wedding occasion is to be upfront with the message on the invitation card. Beating around the bush won’t emphasize subtleties. Your guests need to understand your stance as far as their children are involved. Here are a few tips on how to do it.
- Print the names on the invitation cards. Make sure only the invited guests’ names appear on the invitation. For parents with kids, only print the parents’ names on the card. For instance, Mr. and Mrs. Edward rather than “The Edward Family” which gives the impression that even the children can attend the occasion.
- Indicate the number of reserved seats. When issuing the RSVP card, tell your guests the number of seats reserved for them. For instance, Mr. and Mrs. Smith have only two reserved seats at the reception. Hence, The Smith’s two children have no seats at the venue.
- Make calls. Phoning your invited guests and telling them that yours is an adults-only occasion is a viable way of relaying the information. As impolite as many would perceive the gesture, when it is undertaken tactfully, you’re not to blame for any offense taken.
Say it Subtly
While saying it in a subtle way sounds polite, it may send the wrong idea to parents with children. The risk is that parents may develop the assumptions that the entire family is a package deal. It brings frustrations when the parents learn the truth at the eleventh hour and can barely make alternative plans or show up to the wedding with their young ones. A verbal confirmation that you are not expecting kids does the trick.
New-born: An Exception to the “Adult-Only” Rule
Most engaged couples have no children. It is no wonder they lack the understanding of how the children may behave during the event, thus the kid-free rule. However, you need to show sensitivity to newly-weds who have just gotten a baby, most so if you’ve sent them an RSVP of having the baby during the wedding.
It is recommended to stretch the invitation to babies who are 6 months old and below if you direly need the parents to attend. Babies of this age bracket need to be exclusively breastfed. That means that the baby cannot be separated from the mother for many hours. Checking the baby frequently and providing breast or bottled milk help calm down the young baby.